tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4056005406217946469.post9036863539729359834..comments2023-03-30T21:47:08.518-04:00Comments on Kicking Back: Don't Get Sucked InAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17411680916657152897noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4056005406217946469.post-40567450001038059992012-03-13T12:03:05.015-04:002012-03-13T12:03:05.015-04:00Anon,
I have to say honestly some of my knee-jerk...Anon,<br /><br />I have to say honestly some of my knee-jerk reaction was similar to yours in that hard, even harsh words can serve a purpose even with younger players. (I don't think lazy is harsh) The point I think Paul's article was making was that the dad should have then listened to the answer and used it as a "teachable moment." To just lambaste a youth player, turn away, and not have a message in there may not be an optimum technique for teaching. Then again, not every moment is a teachable one.<br /><br />Regarding getting involved in a discussion of the type, I ask myself first (before I get involved), what is the reason for my involvement. If it is to stop something like a battery from happening, then I am all in. However if it is more to simply offer an opinion about something I will generally keep it to myself.<br /><br />It may seem odd, as everyone feels inclined to offer an opinion about my refereeing, or refereeing in general, but I generally gravitate to how truly uninformed many of those folks are and (for me anyway) would wonder how informed I am about sharing an opinion about something else I have just stumbled on.<br /><br />But again like I said in the article, that is just me, and others' mileage will vary. There are no "right" answers in stuff like this.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17411680916657152897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4056005406217946469.post-26329146058944997132012-03-12T17:27:27.492-04:002012-03-12T17:27:27.492-04:00Maybe it was my hostile upbringing...but calling a...Maybe it was my hostile upbringing...but calling a little girl "lazy" doesn't seem to be all that negative. Last year after a game I walked by the losing team and the coach said to 12 year old girls "Well we really did suck today didn't we?"<br /><br />Now that sounds bad...but I have no idea what the relationship is between that coach and those players. Getting in the middle of it while being ignorant isn't the best way to go about it. <br /><br />However lets say that I said something...so? What's the problem? They won't like that I butted in? I don't see that as an issue, my opinion can be expressed it's not going to affect the game or the way I referee it. Also if it does, I've had bad games before not the end of the world.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01535749969070560933noreply@blogger.com